“…it isn’t so much the act of asking that paralyzes us–it’s what lies beneath: the fear of being vulnerable, the fear of rejection, the fear of looking needy or weak. The fear of being seen as a burdensome member of the community instead of a productive one.”
―Amanda Palmer, The Art of Asking
Asking for things is not easy. Asking people to look at your work is especially grueling because it’s your art, it’s personal and it requires vulnerability. This is why so many artists are so bad at marketing. Been there. I still cringe a little bit every time I post on social media asking photographers and artists to work with me. Selling creative services and products can feel uncomfortable, to say the least.
But I LOVE what I do, and if I want it to pay my bills I have to keep asking people to work with me, over and over and over.
The same goes for you. There may well be no one out there searching for you. You have to ask to be seen. You have to ask people to look at your portfolio, at your website, and you have to ask people to hire you, and to pay you.
“It’s just a math problem.” This is one of my favorite things that a mentor and friend of mine, Cindy Villanueva, says all of the time. What she means by this is, take the emotion out of it. Ask for what you want. If someone says no, move on to the next task or the next ask. Don’t dwell on the no, keep moving.
If you don’t ask, you’ll never hear the YES.
Do you need a business coach or a portfolio review? Will you chat with me for 15 minutes? Maybe we can work together to make those icky parts of your business seem less intimidating. I want to empower you to ask for what you want, so you can start getting the YESes.
I’m rooting for you!
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